When we make decisions how do we know what is the right choice? As Christians our decisions should be based in principle rather than emotion. This is what the Scriptures refer to as walking according to the Spirit rather than according to the flesh (Rom. 8:4-8). When we are living by the Spirit, in communion with God and oriented around Him and His ways, we are living according to reality. Jesus is the truth, and when we regard Him we regard the truth. From God comes reality and when we’ve been converted we’re converted to live according to reality, according what is real and true.
The flesh is sensory and emotion based. It is impulsive, short-term, feeling oriented. Making decisions based on how we feel or what seems pleasant to us at the moment, without regard to long and short term consequences, is walking according to the flesh. And according to the Bible, making decisions that way is death (Rom. 8:6).
The challenge then is to understand wisdom principles and rightly discern the consequences of our choices. We are free to make any decision we want, however, there are consequences associated with every decision and we are not free to determine them. Consequences are determined by the natural laws that govern the universe, which has been created by God. They are immovable and inevitable, whether we agree with them or not, whether we like them or not. You don’t have to agree with the concept of gravity, but if you step out of a window of a 12 story building, you will learn very quickly that your opinion matters very little. A choice is like picking up a stick, when you pick up the one end you pick up the other. Consequences follow our choices just like the one end of the stick follows the other.
To that end I’ve developed a worksheet that helps link choices with the consequences of those choices. To use the worksheet fill in the one side with the choice you are considering. Then fill in the other side with all the possible short and long term consequences of that choice. Then in the box next to each consequence put the percentage of chance that consequence will likely happen. If you end up giving high percentages to most of the consequences then it shows you are making an informed decision. If, on the other hand, the percentages are low, you may be mistaken about what will result from this choice. To further the accuracy, you can give a copy of the paper without the percentages filled in to someone you trust and have them fill in the percentages and then compare them to yours. The Bible says there is safety in a multitude of counsel (Prov. 24:6). It is often helpful to have someone who is distant from the situation, and more objective, to review our thinking.
You can find the worksheet here.